I've noticed that conversations with my children have stalled to turn into something that I don't like. It could be my fault. I don't always think before I open my mouth. For example， my kids would call me to tell me about something that's been bothering them. Then， as soon as they're finished， I go into mom mode. I can't help it. It's my de-fault setting（默認設置）.
    "You should …" "You need to consider …" "Have you thought of…" "If I were you， I'd …"
    "Mom!"
    The tone is full of frustration and annoyance. The meaning is obvious-"Stop!"
    I am the queen of unwanted advice. When I get one of my adult kids on the phone，I become an expert on everything and anything， which I'm obviously not. I want to be part of their lives. More importantly. I want to prevent them from making mistakes that seem so obvious to me.
    I'm hardly alone in this. Over lunch the other day，a friend told me that her son rarely listened to anything she said. "It's like talking to a wall，" she added. I know that feeling all too well. But I'm learning，very slowly， that talking at is not the same as talking with.
    Giving advice to children can be full of problems. Though we may see ourselves sharing the wisdom of our years，they see something else. They see a controlling parent who hasn't accepted the fact that they're adults with their own thoughts and feelings.
    They're not looking for any smart recipe because they have their own system and don't need your tips. They may not even want an immediate solution to a difficult problem. What they're really hoping for is a safe place to talk with a person who loves and supports them no matter what.
    Because of this， I've given myself the goal of becoming a better parent by being a better listener. It's not an easy task. But I'm determined， I'm strong.

（1）What causes the children's tone of frustration and annoyance in the conversations with the author？（no more than 6 words）

Her mom mode/ That she goes into mom mode./Her unwanted advice. /That she often gives unwanted advice.

Her mom mode/ That she goes into mom mode./Her unwanted advice. /That she often gives unwanted advice.

（2）Why does the author like giving advice to her children？ （no more than 15 words）

Because she wants to be part of their lives and prevents them（from）making mistakes.

Because she wants to be part of their lives and prevents them（from）making mistakes.

（3）What does the underlined word mean？ （no more than 1 word）

tip/method/approach/trick/way

tip/method/approach/trick/way

（4）What do the children actually need in the talk with their parents according to the passage？ （no more than 15 words）

A safe place to talk about anything with a person who loves and supports them. （They need）A safe place to talk about anything with someone loving and supporting them. （They need）A（good）listener who loves and supports them no matter what.

A safe place to talk about anything with a person who loves and supports them. （They need）A safe place to talk about anything with someone loving and supporting them. （They need）A（good）listener who loves and supports them no matter what.

（5）What do you expect your parents to do when you are talking with them about your school life ？ Please explain it. （no more than 25 words）

I hope my parents can really listen to me but not often teach me to do things， because I need them to understand me and support me. /I hope they can listen to me carefully and give me some practical advice， because they have enough experience to help me./I expect them to communicate with me openly， because I believe my parents are like my friends.

I hope my parents can really listen to me but not often teach me to do things， because I need them to understand me and support me. /I hope they can listen to me carefully and give me some practical advice， because they have enough experience to help me./I expect them to communicate with me openly， because I believe my parents are like my friends.