Do you find it hard to say no whenever someone comes to you for help？Do you feel guilty （內疚的） when you have to tell people that you can't help them？And do you often say "yes" while your true answer is "no"？If you answered yes，you may be a "people- pleaser".
   Being friendly and helpful is a good thing.It helps you build lasting friendships.However，going too far-trying to please others even at the cost of your own happiness –can leave you feeling stressed.Luckily，there are some steps that you can take to stop being a people-pleaser.
   To start with，it's important to create"boundaries（邊界）" in your life.Be clear about what you really like to do.You can also tell others that they can only come to you during a certain period of time.
   When someone asks you for help，tell him or her that you need some time to think about it.Use this time to ask yourself：Do you really want to do this？How much time will it take？By giving yourself a few minutes，you'll be better able to decide.
   Some people always try to please others because they have little confidence in themselves.They place a low value on their own happjye.aiess.In this case，try positive self-talk.Remind yourself that you have dreams，too.You don't have to give away your time and energy to do things that don't bring you joy.
   Making a sudden and big change can be hard，but you can break huge task up into pieces.You may，for example，text to say no.Then，go straight to the person and say no.Practice this in less difficult situations first，such as talking to a salesperson or ordering at a restaurant.Then try refusing your friends or relatives.
   Stopping being a people-pleaser doesn't mean you have to give up being kind and helpful.You can still do good things - but don't take away your own happiness.

People-pleaser
Definition	People who try to please others even at the cost of their own happiness. ☆People who find it hard to turn down others' request. ☆People who feel ashamed and bad because of doing nothing helpful. ☆People who agree with others even though they think（1） differently differently .
Risk	People-pleasers may end up putting a lot of pressure on themselves.
（2） Steps Steps on stopping being a people-pleaser	◆Set limits in your life. a.Know your likes and dislikes. b.Tell others you are only（3） available available for a certain period of time. ◆Spare some time to think before replying to others and making the final decision. ◆（4） Develop Develop confidence. a.Try positive self-talk. b.It's unnecessary to waste time and energy doing something which you don't like. ◆Start by taking small steps. a.From texting to say no to refusing others（5） in person in person . b.From strangers to people you know.